Who hasn't stared out
an airplane window on yet another red-eye and thought, What exactly is the point
of this exercise? Or sat through a particularly senseless meeting and wondered,
How in the world did I get here? Or wrestled with a set of strategic choices --
all of which seem hard and unpleasant -- and said, What happened to the fun part
of being in business? According to Peter Koestenbaum, those uncomfortable
questions -- those existential quandaries -- are at the root of issues that
great leaders deal with all the time, and they influence every decision that
must be made.
A classically trained philosopher with
degrees in philosophy, physics, and theology from Stanford, Harvard, and Boston
University, Koestenbaum has spent half a century pondering the questions that
give most of us headaches: Why is there being instead of nothing? What is the
ultimate explanation of the universe? What does it mean to be a successful human
being? After fleeing pre-World War II Germany with his parents, Koestenbaum was
raised in Venezuela; later, he emigrated to the United States to pursue his
studies. He taught at San Jose State University for 34 years, and during that
period he focused on creating a "practical philosophy" -- a philosophy that is
linked to education, psychology, and psychiatry. His many books include "The
Vitality of Death" ( Greenwood, 1971 ), "The New Image of the Person" (
Greenwood, 1978 ), and "Managing Anxiety" ( Prentice Hall, 1974 ). One of his
books, "Leadership: The Inner Side of Greatness" ( Jossey-Bass, 1991 ), has been
translated into several languages, and Koestenbaum is now at work on a new book,
tentatively titled "Diamond Reverse Engineering."
More than 25 years ago, Koestenbaum traded
the cloistered halls of academia for the front lines of the global economy. It's
not unheard-of for this philosopher, now a tireless 71-year-old with thick
glasses and a flowing beard, to visit clients across three continents in a
single week. His agenda: to apply the power of philosophy to the big question of
the day -- how to reconcile the often-brutal realities of business with basic
human values -- and to create a new language of effective leadership. "Unless
the distant goals of meaning, greatness, and destiny are addressed," Koestenbaum
insists, "we can't make an intelligent decision about
what to do tomorrow morning -- much less set strategy for a company or for a
human life. Nothing is more practical than for people to deepen themselves. The
more you understand the human condition, the more effective you are as a
businessperson. Human depth makes business sense."
Koestenbaum's wisdom makes sense to
leaders at such giant organizations as Ford, EDS, Citibank, Xerox, Ericsson, and
even one of Korea's chaebols. All of these companies have welcomed him into
their offices to roam free as a resident sage, company therapist, and secular
priest. His involvement with them ranges from one-on-one coaching sessions to
decade-long engagements featuring intensive leadership seminars. At Ford,
Koestenbaum contributed to the company's 2,000-person Senior Executive Program
throughout the 1980s. In more than a decade at EDS, he led seminars and coached
hundreds of top executives, including then-chairman Les Alberthal. He also
coached Alexander Krauer, a prominent Swedish industrialist, when Krauer was
chairman of Ciba-Geigy. Picking up on that momentum, another leading Swedish
industrialist, Rolf Falkenberg, founded the Koestenbaum Institute to disseminate
the philosopher's teachings across Scandinavia.
"Everything I do," says Koestenbaum, "is
about using themes from the history of thought to rescue people who are
stuck." His logic: Change -- true, lasting, deep-seated
change -- is the business world's biggest and most persistent challenge. But too
many people and too many companies approach change by treating it as a technical
challenge rather than by developing authentic answers to basic questions about
business life. "We've reached such explosive levels of freedom that, for the
first time in history, we have to manage our own mutation," declares
Koestenbaum. "It's up to us to decide what it means to
be a successful human being. That's the philosophical task of the age. Nothing
happens unless you make it happen. As a leader, everything is your
responsibility, because you always could have chosen otherwise."
In an interview with Fast Company,
Koestenbaum explains how age-old questions apply to the new world of work.
Why does being a leader feel so
hard today?
Because reckoning with freedom is always
hard -- and the powerful paradoxes of the new economy make it even harder. We're
living in a peculiar time: It's marked by a soaring stock market, the creation
of tremendous wealth, an explosion in innovation, and the acute alienation that
occurs when the global economy hits the average individual. What I call the
"new-economy pathology" is driven by impossible demands -- better quality, lower
prices, faster innovation -- that generate an unprecedented form of stress.
People feel pressure to meet ever-higher objectives in all realms of work,
wealth, and lifestyle -- and to thrive on that pressure in the process.
This condition is exacerbated by the
pornographic treatment of business in media and culture. The message is, You're
living in the best country in the world at the best time in history; you have an
amazing degree of freedom to do what you want, along with an unprecedented
opportunity to build immense wealth and success -- and to do it more quickly
than ever before. Of course, the average individual has as much of a chance of
launching a skyrocketing IPO as he or she has of becoming a movie star.
What's even more disturbing is that the
ascendancy of shareholder value as the dominant driving force in business has
resulted in a terrible insensitivity to basic human values. That's the real
"stuck point" for leaders: How do we cope with a brutal business reality and
still preserve human values? How do we handle competition without becoming
either the kind of fool who allows it to crush us or the kind of fool who
forgets people?
Resolving that paradox requires something
like an evolutionary transformation of who we are, how we behave, how we think,
and what we value. We've reached such an incredible level of freedom that, for
the first time in history, we have to manage our own mutation. It's up to us to
decide what it means to be a successful human being. That's the philosophical
task of the age.
In some sense, of course, that has been
the task of every age. There's nothing in today's economic disruptions that
equals the horror of World War II. According to some estimates, nearly 100,000
people were killed during every week of that war. In 1935, when I was a
seven-year-old boy, I once stood in the Alexanderplatz, a square in Berlin, and
watched Hitler parade by in his Mercedes, just a few feet away. I'll never
forget the mothers with babies in their arms, the children holding up swastikas.
That leaves a mark on you that can't be erased -- and it leaves you with
questions that you have to confront: Who am I to have witnessed such acts? How
am I to live meaningfully in a world such as this?
The new economy just happens to be the
form that our existential challenge takes today. As always, the real obstacle is
existence itself.
That's a heavy burden to place on
leaders. They must not only guide organizations but also wrestle with basic
philosophical questions.
There's a terrible defect at the core of
how we think about people and organizations today. There is little or no
tolerance for the kinds of character-building conversations that pave the way
for meaningful change. The average person is stuck, lost, riveted by the
objective domain. That's where our metrics are; that's where we look for
solutions. It's the come-on of the consulting industry and the domain of all the
books, magazines, and training programs out there. And that's why books and
magazines that have numbers in their titles sell so well. We'll do anything to
avoid facing the basic, underlying questions: How do we make truly difficult
choices? How do we act when the risks seem overwhelming? How can we muster the
guts to burn our bridges and to create a condition of no return?
There's nothing wrong with all of those
technical solutions. They're excellent; they're creative; they're even
necessary. But they shield us from the real issues: What kind of life do I want
to lead? What is my destiny? How much evil am I willing to tolerate?
Reflection doesn't take anything away from
decisiveness, from being a person of action. In fact, it generates the inner
toughness that you need to be an effective person of action -- to be a leader.
Think of leadership as the sum of two vectors:
competence ( your specialty, your skills, your know-how ) and authenticity (
your identity, your character, your attitude ). When companies and people get
stuck, they tend to apply more steam -- more competence -- to what got them into
trouble in the first place: "If I try harder, I'll be successful," or "If we
exert more control, we'll get the results we need."
The problem is, when you're stuck, you're
not likely to make progress by using competence as your tool. Instead, progress
requires commitment to two things. First, you need to dedicate yourself to
understanding yourself better -- in the philosophical sense of understanding
what it means to exist as a human being in the world. Second, you need to change
your habits of thought: how you think, what you value, how you work, how you
connect with people, how you learn, what you expect from life, and how you
manage frustration. Changing those habits means changing your way of being
intelligent. It means moving from a nonleadership mind to a leadership mind.
What are the attributes of a
"leadership mind"?
Authentic leaders have absorbed the
fundamental fact of existence -- that you can't get around life's inherent
contradictions. The leadership mind is spacious. It has ample room for the
ambiguities of the world, for conflicting feelings, and for contradictory ideas.
I believe that the central leadership
attribute is the ability to manage polarity. In every aspect of life, polarities
are inevitable: We want to live, yet we must die. How can I devote myself fully
to both family and career? Am I a boss or a friend? A lover or a judge? How do I
reconcile my own needs with those of my team? Those paradoxes are simply part of
life. Every business interaction is a form of confrontation -- a clash of
priorities, a struggle of dignities, a battle of beliefs. That's not an
invitation to wage an epic battle of good versus evil or right versus wrong. (
Chances are, your boss is less of an SOB than he is an agent of the cosmos. ) My
point is, you have to be careful not to bang your head against the wrong door.
Polarities are in the nature of things. How we act, how we respond to those
polarities -- that is where we separate greatness from mediocrity.
That doesn't mean that we don't have to
make decisions. Tough choices are a daily requirement of leadership. Leaders
have to hire and fire, to sign off on new strategies, and to risk investments --
all of which can lead to stress and guilt. The presence of guilt is not a result
of making the wrong choice but of choosing itself. And that is the human
condition: You are a being that chooses.
A young, ambitious guy whom I worked with
at Amoco got a double promotion that required a transfer to Cairo. He went home
to his new wife and young baby and said, "Great news, we're moving to Cairo."
Appalled, his wife said, "You're moving alone. I'm going home to my mother."
That was the first test of leadership in that family. There was no viable
compromise: If he relinquished his promotion, he would resent his wife for
ruining his career; if she just went along with the move, she would hate him for
squashing her ideals for her baby and herself. What to do?
After some discussion, they might have
been tempted to believe that maturity required them to deny their feelings and
to sacrifice on behalf of each other. But that actually leads to illness,
depression, and the end of affection. Instead, they went back to the
fundamentals: Is it my career, or is it our career? Is it your baby, or is it
our baby? Are we individuals, or do we operate as a team? What are our values?
That marriage had to grow up by the equivalent of five years in about two weeks.
They ended up going to Cairo, but their relationship had been transformed: She
understood that his career was important to her; he recommitted to his values as
a participant in the family. What matters is not what they ended up choosing,
but how. They took the courageous step to redefine, from the inside out, who
they truly were. The how is what gives you character. The what, which at first
appears paramount, is ultimately of no emotional significance.
Managing polarity teaches us that there
are no solutions -- there are only changes of attitude. When you grapple with
polarities in your life, you lose your arrogant, self-indulgent illusions, and
you realize that the joke is on you. To get that message makes you a more
credible human being -- instantly.
It's one thing for a leader to
embrace the contradictions of the new economy. But how does he or she persuade
colleagues to go along with this kind of thinking?
The best leaders operate in four
dimensions: vision, reality, ethics, and courage. These are the four
intelligences, the four forms of perceiving, the languages for communicating
that are required to achieve meaningful, sustained results. The visionary leader
thinks big, thinks new, thinks ahead -- and, most important, is in touch with
the deep structure of human consciousness and creative potential. Reality is the
polar opposite of vision. The leader as realist follows this motto: Face reality
as it is, not as you wish it to be. The realist grapples with hard, factual,
daily, and numeric parameters. A master in the art of the possible, the realist
has no illusions, sees limits, and has no patience for speculation.
Ethics refers to the basic human values of
integrity, love, and meaning. This dimension represents a higher level of
development, one ruled not by fear or pleasure but by principle. Courage is the
realm of the will; it involves the capacity to make things happen. The
philosophic roots of this dimension lie in fully understanding the centrality of
free will in human affairs. Courage involves both advocacy -- the ability to
take a stand -- and the internalization of personal responsibility and
accountability.
The real challenge of leadership is to
develop all four of these often-contradictory modes of thinking and behaving at
once. Leaders tend to operate on two dimensions at most -- which has more to do
with a lack of insight into human nature than with corrupt intent. Reality
dominates, and the second-most-common attribute is ethics: Consider the
statement "People are our most important asset." Unfortunately, those are often
empty words -- not just because too few people make the connection between
profits and human values, but also because there is no adequate understanding of
what it means to be a human being in a brutally competitive environment.
"Vision" might be one of the most overused words in business, but in fact vision
-- in the sense of honing great thinking and fostering the capacity for ongoing
inventiveness -- is rarely practiced. And courage is demonstrated even more
rarely.
When we talk about courage, we
usually mean having guts or taking risks. But you talk about courage as if it
were an almost mythic quality -- one that lies at the heart of leadership
success.
It goes back to the beginning of our
discussion. Aristotle believed, correctly, that courage is the first of the
human virtues, because it makes the others possible. Courage begins with the
decision to face the ultimate truth about existence: the dirty little secret
that we are free. It requires an understanding of free will at the archetypal
level -- an understanding that we are free to define who we are at every moment.
We are not what society and randomness have made us; we are what we have chosen
to be from the depth of our being. We are a product of our will. We are
self-made in the deepest sense.
One of the gravest problems in life is
self-limitation: We create defense mechanisms to protect us from the anxiety
that comes with freedom. We refuse to fulfill our potential. We live only
marginally. This was Freud's definition of psychoneurosis: We limit how we live
so that we can limit the amount of anxiety that we experience. We end up
tranquilizing many of life's functions. We shut down the centers of
entrepreneurial and creative thinking; in effect, we halt progress and growth.
But no significant decision -- personal or organizational -- has ever been
undertaken without being attended by an existential crisis, or without a
commitment to wade through anxiety, uncertainty, and guilt.
That's what we mean by transformation. You
can't just change how you think or the way that you act -- you must change the
way that you will. You must gain control over the patterns that govern your
mind: your worldview, your beliefs about what you deserve and about what's
possible. That's the zone of fundamental change, strength, and energy -- and the
true meaning of courage.
Does developing the will to
transform mean that you can actually will others to change?
Taking personal responsibility for getting
others to implement strategy is the leader's key polarity. It's the existential
paradox of holding yourself 100% responsible for the fate of your organization,
on the one hand, and assuming absolutely no responsibility for the choices made
by other people, on the other hand. That applies to your children too. You are
100% responsible for how your children turn out. And you accomplish that by
teaching them that they are 100% responsible for how they turn out.
So how do you motivate people? Not with
techniques, but by risking yourself with a personal, lifelong commitment to
greatness -- by demonstrating courage. You don't teach it so much as challenge
it into existence. You cannot choose for others. All you can do is inform them
that you cannot choose for them. In most cases, that in itself will be a strong
motivator for the people whom you want to cultivate. The leader's role is less
to heal or to help than to enlarge the capacity for responsible freedom.
Some people are more talented than others.
Some are more educationally privileged than others. But we all have the capacity
to be great. Greatness comes with recognizing that your potential is limited
only by how you choose, how you use your freedom, how resolute you are, how
persistent you are -- in short, by your attitude. And we are all free to choose
our attitude.
Polly LaBarre, a Fast Company senior
editor, is based in New York City. Contact Peter Koestenbaum by email ( pkipeter@ix.netcom.com ) or on the Web ( http://www.pib.net ).
Sidebar: Fear and Trembling in the
New Economy
You don't need a philosopher to tell you
that anxiety is one by-product of what Peter Koestenbaum calls "the brutality
and promise" of the new economy. But you do need a philosopher to explain how
anxiety rules the human condition -- and how it can serve as a powerful,
productive force in your life. The best thinker for the job, says Koestenbaum,
is Soren Kierkegaard, a Danish philosopher who did as much for the analysis of
anxiety as Freud did for the analysis of the subconscious. Here's a short course
from Koestenbaum on the value of anxiety.
Anxiety generates
knowledge. "As Kierkegaard
explains it, anxiety is the natural condition. It's a cognitive emotion that
reveals truths that we would prefer to hide but that we need for our greater
health. In an essay called 'The Concept of Dread,' Kierkegaard draws a
connection between anxiety and free will. We cannot prove that free will is true
-- because we freely choose the meaning of truth in the first place. But our
anxiety tips us off to the existence of our freedom: It reminds us of our huge
responsibility to choose who we are and to define our world."
Anxiety leads to
action. "Kierkegaard wrote that
the most common form of despair occurs when one does not choose or 'will' to be
oneself -- when a person is 'another than himself.' The opposite of despair is
'to will to be that self which one truly is.' That's the experience of anxiety.
It is choosing life in the face of death; it is the experience of thought
becoming action, reflection becoming behavior, and theory becoming practice.
Anxiety is pure energy."
Anxiety makes you a grown-up.
"Anxiety is the experience of
growth itself. In any endeavor, how do you feel when you go from one stage to
the next? The answer: You feel anxious. Anxiety that is denied makes us ill;
anxiety that is fully confronted and fully lived through converts itself into
joy, security, strength, centeredness, and character. The practical formula: Go
where the pain is."